Challenge Accepted

Sometimes I think twice before writing some of these “self-help” type of blog posts. I assume that for people to read my posts, that they’d assume that I really have my stuff together in life. Of course, any of us who ever decide to take advice from someone on a certain subject would have expectations that that person would be knowledgeable in that subject. Obviously, people would rather take advice from someone with knowledge and/or experience in a specific subject rather than someone with no knowledge or experience. For example, would you want someone with a rat’s nest for hair to be styling your hair? Or a dentist with rotten/missing teeth to be working on your teeth? These examples may or may not have a point, but it sounds pretty good to me right now.

I don’t always have my “stuff together”. But I know that I have the knowledge, the tools, years of experience, and most importantly God to get me through any hurdle, any project, or any lack of motivation.  And let me tell you, 10 times out of 10, when I fail, it’s because of a lack of motivation. I can’t let my feelings and my emotions dictate how productive I will be, because I will never get anything done that way. I will never always have my “stuff together”, but I’m glad (never always? why does that sound strange, yet perfect). Glad because that means that every success I will ever have in every area of my life requires a challenge. A success isn’t a success without a challenge. Getting over that challenge makes it a success. For every successful person, there are challenges that that person had to overcome to become successful. Not only that, but to maintain that level of success, or to become even more successful, they would have to face even more challenges. Me not always having my “stuff together” means that as a human being, I face challenges every single day. And each challenges I face yields an opportunity for success. That makes me really happy. If I’m being challenged, that means that I’ve been given an opportunity for success. When I talk about success, I’m not talking about just the long-term end result of all of your hard work. I’m talking about the successes that we can have every single day. If I choose to get off of the couch and put down the ice cream tub to work on a project, even if it’s something small, I consider that a success because I fought the urge to lay around and watch KUWTK all day, and made the decision to get stuff done.

Going back to what I posted on my All About Me page, I have gained knowledge over the years in the “self help” subject, simply because I believe in constant improvements in every area of my life whether small or large, but steady and constant, will prove a successful outcome. I don’t believe that I can sit here and write about these types of subjects because I live a perfect life, but because in my quest to learn as much as I can in the “self help” area and improve my own life in every area, I have a desire to share things that I’ve learned over the years.

Remember – be thankful for each challenge in life, because each challenge yields great opportunities for success, knowledge (life lessons), and an ability to help other’s out in areas where you’ve already had success in.

God bless,

M.M.

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Investing time in relationships

 

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For me, I know that this time, this season, is one of the busiest. There are so many things that need to be done. No matter how hard I work, I know that no matter what, there will always be more work to do. Just when I think I’ve caught up, or am getting closer to completing tasks and projects, new work will always come in to replace it. I need to finally realize that there is no end to the constant stream of work that will always be weighing on me. Whether it’s working on my business, or doing chores around the house, there is always something to do. For some reason, and quite frequently, I always use the excuse of being to busy to attend events, spend time with friends, or attend family gatherings.

This week, I had the opportunity to hang out with friends and family, and I took it. Even though there were a million tasks that needed to be worked on. It felt great to break out of the routine for once, not stress about all of the things I could be doing, and just relax and take it all in. I think that it is important to seize those opportunities to develop those relationships and to be able to bond with those around you. Over the last 10 years or so, I’d been very disconnected with a lot of friends and family in my life, but I’m trying to change that. There are times when I just dread leaving my home, out of my comfort zone, but sometimes you have to do that if you want to spend quality time with those you love and care about, and i’m sure glad I did.

M.M.

New year, New you

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WOW – I can’t believe how fast these last few months have flown by! It seems like yesterday that we were all talking about our New Year’s resolutions (New Year, New Me, right?), and now, we’re already approaching April, which means that one-quarter of 2017 is already over. How are your New Year’s resolutions going so far? For me personally, I’m far from achieving my New Year’s resolutions, yet i’m still hopeful. I know that just because I’m not anywhere near where I want to be, I can’t give up. If it’s important enough to me (which it is), I will pursue it until I reach my goal. The good news is, that we still have three-quarters of a year left (because i’m optimistic like that). No, I’m not going to be hard on my self if I don’t do everything perfectly as I envisioned it to be, or don’t get it it done before the year ends. I have to be reasonable with my goals anyway. I believe that if I at least, put consistent effort into achieving my goal, even if the outcome is not a perfect one, I am still successful because I tried and did not give up.

I want to encourage everyone out there to stay motivated. Don’t give up. There is so much more to be gained by working hard toward something you want, instead of giving up when you fall short or don’t follow through. I believe that success isn’t always an end result. I believe that getting my mind set on doing something and actually doing it, or taking steps to achieve it, is success itself.

God bless,

M.M.

I’m back y’all…

Yes, I’m back. I’d been long gone for quite some time, y’all. I don’t need to make excuses for myself, but… I’m sure that inquiring minds just have to know, so…

I hadn’t posted because:

A) I’ve been busy starting up a plumbing company with my husband and with other personal projects.

B) I didn’t feel like it, and didn’t try to motivate myself at all.

C) I was contemplating whether I should keep this blog going, or whether I should just delete everything and forget it ever happened.

I’ll be honest. I’m not a fan of most blogs. I hate sifting through all of the unimportant fluff surrounding the good bits of information. Any time I’ve ever really visited blogs, it’s because Google lead me there. And if I get there because of Google, that means that I want information. I often tell myself that I wished there was a way to just extract the valuable information, and purge all of the unnecessary junk. I understand that a blog post is supposed to be personal, and I’m sure a lot of people love that. I guess it’s just frustrating when you’re searching for a topic, and you have to scroll down the website for like three years just to get to the good stuff that I went there for in the first place. Anyway, that’s just a little bit of why I struggle with the idea of blogging, and I thought about deleting my blog for a while. So, basically while I was contemplating all of this, I was reading a few of my blog posts from awhile back and I had suddenly felt different about the whole thing. Anyway, I was reading some of those posts, and I felt like I was learning tips and things from my past self that I had forgotten about and were basically really good tips and ideas. How could I possibly delete all of that good information?

Anywho, I decided that I will continue to write posts, but they have to be valuable with good content and good resources. I don’t want to waste anyone else’s time and I certainly don’t want to waste my time. So I’m not promising that I’ll post every single day. I will post as often as I can find good topics to write about, and with valuable information. I’ll definitely try to keep it fun. I feel like keeping blog thing around will help people, and not only that, but it will also help me with my other projects that I have going on right now. I will be making updates and changes to this blog, as well. Definitely for the better, though.

Bye for now!

 

 

 

Starting my vacation out wrong.

My husband and I are starting up a business soon. My husband has been going to school to be able to pass his contractor’s test, in order to get his license. He has been going to the school for about 2-3 weeks, but over a span of several months, since the school is approximately 3 or so hours away from our home. Since I had this week off from work, we decided to spend this week in Phoenix, so that he can have time to study at school, and then take the test at at the end of the week. My husband goes in at 7 a.m., and doesn’t get out until 6 p.m. I drop him off at school in the morning, so it’s not like he can take a break and leave for lunch or anything. Since I had been in the hotel room all day yesterday, I was looking forward to picking him up at school, and going out to one of our favorite restaurants. I’m sure that he was looking forward to it to, because the only thing there for him to eat was vending machine snacks.

Well, about 6 p.m., I pulled into the parking lot of his school, kind of excited to be able to go out to dinner, and talk to him about how his day went, and all that jazz. Just when I was pulling in to the parking spot, something felt off. Sure enough, I get out of the truck to find the front driver side tire deflating. It wasn’t just flat. There was an actual hole in the tire. We didn’t have a spare. I texted my husband right away, to let him know what happened. I didn’t get a response back, so I figured that he was still in there studying or something. He came out about five minutes later. I could tell just by looking at him that he was exhausted. I felt awful having to break the news to him. I’m sure he wanted to get something to eat, and then rest. Of course he wasn’t happy about the whole deal, but nothing I could do or say would change the fact that we were stuck in this parking lot. I contacted our insurance company’s roadside assistance service, and after answering about a thousand questions, the guy on the phone told me that we didn’t have a roadside assistance plan on our policy, and just for the tow, it would be about seventy-five dollars.  He ended up putting me on hold for quite a while after that. When he returned to the phone, he said that he was looking at the wrong policy, and that we were actually covered. That made things a little bit better, I suppose. It could have been worse. The same guy I spoke to, told me that most tire shops would be closed at this time, and that I’d have to find one on my own, and then call the insurance company back with the address that we needed to have our truck towed to.

The guy that answered the phone at the first tire company I called, asked me several questions, and then towards the end, said that they were a commercial tire shop only. I called several more tire shops after that. Each one was closed. I ended up finding a way to google the nearest tire shops, and I basically just called the only one that didn’t say “closed” in the description. The tire shop was open 24/7, so that was a huge relief. Then, I noticed that the tire shop had only 1.8 stars on Yelp. Of course, my first instinct was to read all of the reviews. They were bad. Real bad. I even gave them the benefit of the doubt, and checked their Facebook reviews. It was all bad. In fact, I wondered how they stayed in business. It was the only tire shop that I knew of that was open, so I felt I had no choice. I called the insurance company back to give them the address of the tire shop that I needed to have my truck towed to. It was a call center, so this time I got a new person. Nice girl, but I didn’t want to exchange pleasantries. I just wanted this to be over. Of course, she asked me all the same questions that the other agent had already asked me. Every once in a while, I would interject and tell her that I already answered those questions before. I was frustrated.

Approximately fifteen minutes after that, I got a call from an automated service, saying that a tow truck’s estimated time of arrival would be about an hour. I was frustrated. I could tell my husband was frustrated. About ten minutes after that, I got a call from the tow truck driver himself, telling me that he’d be there in ten minutes. I was starting to feel a little bit better, when about fifteen minutes after that, I received a call from the tow company’s dispatch service. They basically said that the driver that was headed our way had to go back to his last call. She assured me that they would send another tow truck out our way, and the estimated time of arrival for him, would only be about thirty minutes (only? ONLY? ONLY!!!) I wanted to ring someone’s neck at that point, and I’m not saying who’s.

My husband and I sat in our truck for a little less than an hour before the tow truck finally showed up. It was a relief. The driver got out and did his thing in hardly any time at all. It was funny because the driver wanted to verify the address of where we wanted to have our truck towed to, and when I told him, he said “Oh that place? I would never take any of my vehicles there.” I told him that I didn’t want to, but that it was the only place I could find that was open. Just then, he made a quick phone call to a nicer place that he knew was open, to verify that they had our tire size. I was really thankful. To make a long story short, we got towed to the tire shop, had everything fixed in a short amount of time, and just ended up eating at the Jack in the Box nearby. By the time we got back to our hotel room, it was a little after 9 p.m.

Hopefully today goes a lot better than yesterday, and I’m hoping that we can hit up that restaurant that we were planning to go to yesterday. I was hoping that my vacation would be stress-free and relaxing. Hopefully the week gets better for me. I just need to think positively.

My freedom from sleep paralysis!

Now, I know that this isn’t a “religious” blog. I just wanted to write about how certain things in my life have changed since incorporating a new habit in my daily routine. First of all, ever since I was about eighteen, I had started experiencing really bad sleep paralysis episodes, several times per night. They were so scary, that all day long, I would dread night time, because I knew what would happen when I went to sleep. The sleep paralysis episodes never stopped happening. It would happen so often, that I sometimes wasn’t sure what was reality and what was a “hallucination”. Eventually, I learned not to fight it, and not to open my eyes, because things would get worse. I thought that it was just something I would have to deal with for the rest of my life, and basically came to the conclusion that it was something that I just had to go through.

Some of the “hallucinations” I had were out of body experiences, seeing monsters/creatures/shadows, floating over my bed, spinning in circles over my bed, hearing footprints, noises, feeling things touch me, having my hair pulled, having my throat pushed in so I couldn’t breathe, hearing family members having conversations when no one was home, and hearing something laugh at me whenever I say Jesus’ name, are just a few that come to mind. I also see clear figures for a few minutes after I wake up.

A few months ago, I decided to listen to the bible on audio before going to sleep. It was great. I didn’t have any sleep paralysis episodes, or weird lucid dreams, or anything like that. It was just peaceful sleep. I woke up refreshed, and had God’s word on my mind as soon as I woke up. I then decided to read a little bit of what I was listening to, because it was good, and I fell asleep halfway through it. Since it worked out so great, I decided to do it every night from then on. A few weeks went by, and I did not have one sleep paralysis episode! It was great. After that, I did have a few episodes that came back, but I counted that as my own fault for letting bad thoughts come in my mind. Sometimes before falling asleep, I would start thinking about sleep paralysis, and sure enough, it would come back. It’s like I now had freedom from something that had me oppressed, but I couldn’t stop looking back. Since then, I have made it a point to meditate on God’s word, take every bad thought captive, and let God renew my mind by hearing and hearing His word.

My husband and I have listened to the bible on audio every night in the past few months, it has done so much for us. There’s no more staying awake, just stressing about things or thinking about the next day. It’s just rest. Since incorporating this into our daily routine, not only have I stopped having these night terrors, but this has helped me in every area of life, and it just leaves me desiring to get even deeper into my relationship with God.

If you read up on sleep paralysis, it will tell you that the things I’ve seen/experienced are just hallucinations. I personally don’t believe it to be that way. I actually believe that it is a more spiritual thing, but that’s a conversation for another time and another place, I suppose. I just wanted to put it out there, so you will know why I put hallucinations in quotations. Also, I hope it doesn’t sound like I’m using the bible just as a quick fix product, or anything like that. I’m just basically saying that using the audio bible function on my app, and setting a timer to it, is a great tool that I wasn’t utilizing. I didn’t start out using it because I thought it would cure my sleep paralysis. Not having sleep paralysis as a result, was an unexpected, wonderful benefit. I still read the bible, because after I fall asleep, I don’t hear everything that’s being said.

This is the free app I use to listen to the bible:

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Also, I will start writing more, whether people read my posts or not. I feel like it’s a benefit to myself, if anything.

Discouraged by others’ success?

Do you ever feel discouraged because you see others reaching success before you do? You’re not even sure how some of those people got there, and you didn’t. Maybe you feel that you’re smarter, work harder, or more experienced than they are in that area. It can be so discouraging, that you can feel like a failure. It can also make you feel like giving up hope on ever reaching your dream. I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way. First of all, you should be motivated by other people’s success. You should say to yourself, “If that guy can do it, then I can do it.” You should be genuinely happy for him. In fact, you should even ask him for advice. Once you’ve reached the point where you feel like you know everything about everything, and don’t need anyone’s help or advice, well then, you need a serious attitude adjustment, Mister. You can learn a lot from different sources. Everyone has a different perspective, and there’s never just one side to anything. There are many reasons why you cannot compare yourself to others. Here are just a few:

Advantages/Disadvantages – Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. You may be great at one thing, and terrible at another. The other person may be terrible at something you’re good at, but then they can also be great at something you’re terrible at.

Setbacks – You may have things that set you back that the other person doesn’t have.

Tools – You may not have the tools or resources that the other person has the advantage of having.

Drive/Motivation – It all boils down to this. You may have the potential, but not the drive. You also may have drive and motivation, but not the know-how. I think that it would be better to have the drive, but not the know-how, because you can always learn the things that you need to know. If you have the know-how, but no drive or motivation, it’s pretty much useless if you don’t apply it.

Stop measuring your success by other people’s success. You have no idea what they had to go through to get where they are now. It’s easier to just compare yourself to the person you were yesterday, and make it your mission to be better everyday.

I am am writing this tonight, because I was actually having similar thoughts. I don’t know anyone personally that I was discouraged by because of their success. I just take a look at the things that I want accomplish, and see hundreds of people wanting to do the same things, and even doing them better. At least I have my charming personality and witty sense of humor to set me apart from the masses.